Posted by: meleigh53 | December 17, 2014

Accentuate the Positive!


headshot chin in hands2You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
And latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mr. In-Between”

This catchy little song by Johnny Mercer back in 1944 makes a good point. Look for the positive things in life. Don’t dwell on the negative things. And stay out of the middle ground between the two extremes.

Does it have anything to give us besides a catchy tune and nifty lyrics?

Accentuate the positive. What does this mean? Look for the good in life. One way to do this is to show gratitude for those positive things life brings to us. Several studies into gratitude prove its worth. Practicing gratitude and keeping a gratitude journal can improve our emotional and physical well-being. In fact, many who are afflicted with neuromuscular disease and practice daily gratitude have more positive feelings about life when compared to a control group.

Think about it for a moment. It’s sort of like having one of those little annoying bites or bumps. As long as there is something else to occupy your thoughts, it doesn’t really bother you.

But as soon as you try to relax or go to sleep, there it is, itching away or just for begging you to pick at it. It’s about where you’ve focused.

The premise behind the Law of Attraction is that you attract into your life whatever you think about. You attract what you focus on. Maybe you attract bad luck because you believe you will have bad luck, as an example.

What does this have to do with gratitude and accentuating the positive?

When you show gratitude or thanks for the good things in your life, you are focusing on the positive rather than the negative. You’re grateful for the blessings you’ve received and looking for more good things to come your way.

You attract what you think about. So if you’re thinking about how blessed you are, how abundant your life is, you will attract more abundance.

But how can I show gratitude? I’ve got debt up to here, my car broke down, I’ve got kids in college. Where do I have abundance?

  • Do you have a roof over your head to keep out the weather?
  • Is there food on your table? Not filet mignon and truffles, but enough to eat?
  • Are you reasonably healthy?
  • Do you have good friends who’ll share a laugh with you?
  • Did you see something beautiful today? A pretty flower, brilliant sunshine, anything lovely that caught your attention?

Start with the little things. Remember that old saying? “See a pin. Pick it up. All the day you’ll have good luck.”

But only if you show gratitude for finding the pin! It might not be much, but you can be grateful for it. For instance, you didn’t step on it barefooted and jam it into your toe. That’s something to be thankful for. I have experience in this area. Trust me on this.

How about the quarter you found in the parking lot? Did you pick it up and say, “Look! I found a quarter! How can it get any better than this?” Or did you say, “It’s just a quarter. What can you do with a quarter?”

It’s all about your focus. Are you looking for the blessings in life, or for things that go wrong?

Are you thankful for the small things, or do you wait for something stupendous to happen before you’re grateful?

In Christian teaching, we are instructed to be careful of our thoughts.

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” (Philippians 4:8 KJV)

“Accentuate the positive. Eliminate the negative. Latch on to the affirmative. Don’t mess with Mr. In-Between.”

It’s just another way of saying the same thing. Where your thoughts go, so will your heart. You will find what you look for.

My father used to say that if you went looking for trouble, you’d most likely find it. The reverse is also true.

Make a positive choice in life. Accentuate those positives. Ditch those negatives by the side of the road somewhere. And don’t mess with the in-betweens. They’ll lead you off the path and into the briar patch.

Keep those thoughts positive. Let’s make life a better place to be.

 

Posted by: meleigh53 | November 28, 2014

Thoughts on Life and Death


headshot chin in handsDuring the past two or three weeks, several people close to us have had loved ones in the ER with heart attacks, strokes, or other life threatening conditions. One man is slipping quickly away. His grandson is quite upset by the prospect of losing someone who has been with him throughout his entire life.

Is it wrong for him to feel this way? No. It is quite understandable. We all grieve for those who leave us at the end of their lives here. Yes, we will miss those who pass from this life. All of our memories of them, those day to day things that will be reminders of our times together, will make us miss them the more. Family traditions like that first cup of coffee in the morning, or early morning fishing trips, those special things we shared will be the hardest.

But we must also learn to say goodbye and let go. We shouldn’t try to hold on forever. And would we want to keep someone here who is in pain or who can’t live without machines? Is that really life? Isn’t it kinder to give them permission to go and end their suffering? Sometimes we are so afraid of losing someone’s presence and company we selfishly try to hang on beyond what is reasonable.

Once a person has finished whatever they were meant to accomplish during this lifetime, let them go graciously. When they’ve learned whatever lessons there were to learn, and finished their work, there is no reason to make them try to hang on to keep from hurting those they will leave behind. Let them know it’s all right to say goodbye.

To those who are in these circumstances right now, my heart goes out to you. It is difficult to say goodbye to our loved ones. But remember, this is merely a passing, a transition. We will be reunited at a later time.

These are only my thoughts on the matter and not meant to preach at or judge others. And if you’ve lost someone recently, I’m not telling you how to feel or how to grieve. Each person grieves in his or her own way. But we shouldn’t grieve forever. There has to come a time when we move on.

My intent is to give hope and ease pain, not criticize those who are grieving a loss. I’ve had my share of grief. I understand.

So what about this thing called death?

It is a transition from one state to another, a crossing over. It isn’t something to fear. It is finishing our work or lessons here and moving on. For those who have had hard and troubled lives, or who have been ill for a very long time, it is a release from their pain and trouble.

So grieve as you must, but be willing to let go. Don’t feel guilty when the sorrow begins to fade. Your sorrow will do that person no good. They are here no longer and are beyond those emotions. The pain is meant to fade as time goes on. Will you ever forget? No. But you can reach acceptance and move forward with your life. Don’t hold on to the past through the rest of your future.

To those who are grieving, you have my sincerest sympathy. The pain will eventually lessen and you will see the light of the future beckoning through the window.

Don’t be afraid to embrace that light. Let your sorrow fade and embrace your future.

Posted by: meleigh53 | October 18, 2014

Breast Cancer Awareness Month


Cancer_and_the_Warri_Cover_for_KindleOctober is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and, as a survivor, I would like to share a little book I wrote telling of my struggle.

Cancer and the Warrior’s Way isn’t a technical document about breast cancer. It is a chronicle of what I experienced from the time of diagnosis through recovery. One of the most frightening things for me was not knowing what to expect during treatment. Doctors are great at what they do, but they cannot prepare you for the actuality of chemotherapy.

I wrote my story to give others hope and to show that someone else had been there and survived–not only cancer but its treatment.

If you know someone who has been diagnosed with breast cancer, please share this book with them. Just knowing someone else understands can help.

http://amzn.com/B00F3ZW2LW

Available in Kindle version or in paperback, share this with someone you love during Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

A piu tardi,

Mellie

 

Posted by: meleigh53 | August 1, 2014

Summer’s Bounty


headshot chin in hands2Summer break is coming to an end soon, and everyone is gearing up for classes. It is a very busy time.  But what I love about this time of year is  all the fresh foods from the garden. We’re just getting our garden started in this location, and it takes time to start a garden from scratch. But this year we have been blessed with yellow crook-necked squash, cucumbers and tomatoes.

This is a great time for those trying to shed a few pounds, too. What is better than fresh good right out of the garden? With summer squash, green beans, tomatoes and cucumbers, you can eat your fill and still keep low in calories.

One of my favorite ways to fix summer squash is to put a tiny bit of olive oil in a skillet, cut the squash into fairly equal slices and saute it with a little salt, onion and garlic to taste. Don’t cook it too long! I want mine still slightly firm when I bite into it, not all mushy.  Just before I put it on the plate, I sprinkle it with dill weed and sometimes a tiny squeeze of lime. There’s something about lime juice that really perks things up for me.

With only 68 calories per cup, cooked, yellow squash is nutritious, healthy and delicious.

Early mornings here in Georgia are delightful for taking a walk , before the sun gets up over the trees to turn the world into a sauna. So lace up and enjoy a nice stroll.

Don’t have a garden? Check out the farmer’s markets in your area. We have several near us for those things which didn’t do so well this year. While it’s not quite the same as harvesting from our own garden, you can still have healthy foods on a budget.

No matter what your plans are for watching your weight, or releasing weight, a healthy diet is a great addition.

For more information on losing weight, check out The Gabriel Method.

Have a wonderful summer and enjoy those fresh foods!

Ciao

Posted by: meleigh53 | May 23, 2014

Seize Life


headshot chin in hands2Do you know someone who is afraid to live? Really live? Someone who’s life consists of strict routine, each and everyday the same with no deviation, no adventure? A person who has locked the door on anything new and shut the door to the world, happy to live alone in a box with no distractions?

Is this living? Or merely existing? 

How can you live life to the full if you never reach out and embrace it?

We only grow if we are challenged, if we have to overcome obstacles in our path. A body builder doesn’t sculpt those muscles by lifting the same ten pound weight over and over again. He challenges his strength by increasing the weight on the bar, tearing down muscles to rebuild them stronger. He knows what he wants and works hard to make it so. He doesn’t let a little set back keep him from striving to reach his goal.

It’s the same way with life.

If we never accept a challenge, or test our abilities, how can we grow into better, stronger people? If we are comfortable accepting what we have, what we are now, for the rest of our lives, can we really say we’re living?

I’m not saying we all should go out and try to climb the Matterhorn. We don’t need to run a marathon. But we should reach out for something to define who we are. That could be writing a book, composing a song, painting something uniquely our own.

It could be opening our heart to someone once again and risk having it broken.

We need to let people into our lives, to share and exchange ideas without judging or interpreting motives. Accept them for who they are, not for what we want them to be, and see where it leads.

So many people think that everyone else sees the world the way they do, but this is incorrect. Two people standing side by side, who witness the same event, will each view it differently.

They aren’t standing in exactly the same spot, so their perspective is different.

They have different life experiences which will temper what they’ve seen accordingly.

Even identical twins will develop different life experiences from each other, as it is impossible for them to be in exactly the same place, at exactly the same time throughout their lives.

If you never let anyone close enough to know you, to change your perspective, you’ll never know what you could have learned or become because of them. If you never attempt something new, you’ll never now how well you would have done or how much you would have enjoyed the experience.

Seize life firmly, in both hands, without judging, and do something. Learn something new, do something different just for fun. Embrace each day as an opportunity to experience life and be grateful for it. Don’t simply exist.

“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.” (Ecc. 9:10 NIV)

Go out and live, enjoy life. Make it worth living. Don’t drift with the current. Use it to propel you on to something greater.

I challenge you to seize life. 

Ciao amici miei…

 

Posted by: meleigh53 | January 8, 2014

Making Change Easier


Hi everybody!

I was recently introduced to a concept called Access Consciousness.

Wow!

So far, I love the ideas expressed by Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer on creating change in your life.

If you’d like to give it a try–and I think you’ll find it as fascinating as I do–Go to the following link. They have a lot of free videos to get you started, so you don’t have to spend a dime to try it out.

Go to:  http://www.accessconsciousness.com/

Then click on the Free Video Series link on the right hand side of the page.

You might also check out Dr. Dain Heer’s page:  http://tourofconsciousness.com/

So go ahead. Get ready to make those changes. How does it get any better than this?

Ciao!

Mellie

Posted by: meleigh53 | January 5, 2014

Weight Loss in the New Year


headshot chin in handsOK, the holidays have come and gone, and you want to get serious about losing some weight. There’s that five pounds you put on last year, and then this year, and then…

You know the way it goes. It’s so much easier to gain weight, it seems, than to lose it.

Of course, we all know the first two cardinal rules:

  • Watch your calorie count
  • Increase your physical activity

But maybe there are other things that could help you out. One new idea out there is The Gabriel Method. Jon Gabriel, the developer of this program lost an amazing 226 pounds–without strict dieting or radical exercise.

His program comes with two meditation/self-hypnosis mp3’s to trick your subconscious mind into helping you.

For more information on The Gabriel Method, go to:

http://melliesnews.jigsy.com/

There are several articles there about The Gabriel Method.

You can also read my new article on Yahoo about weight loss here:

http://voices.yahoo.com/losing-weight-year-12471640.html?cat=51

But no matter what method you try, I wish you success. The new year is here and it’s time to see what else is possible for us.

Happy New Year everybody!

Ciao!

Posted by: meleigh53 | January 1, 2014

Happy New Year


Yes, the New Year has come and it’s time for all those New Year’s Resolutions.

Why do we make resolutions? We usually don’t keep them.

And if we really are determined to keep them, how do we go about it? Are there any tricks or tips to help us along the way?

If you’re looking for more information about New Year’s Resolutions, check out my new articles at Yahoo Voices.

http://voices.yahoo.com/new-years-resolutions-12468883.html

http://voices.yahoo.com/how-we-keep-our-years-resolutions-12468907.html

Have a wonderfully happy and healthy New Year!

Mellie

Posted by: meleigh53 | December 24, 2013

Saying Goodbye


Me and Jester1aI don’t care how many times I’ve said goodbye to my dear animal friends, it never gets any easier. Yes, I know I’ll have to let them go someday, but it always seems too soon.

Our big guy, Jester, a shepherd mix left us today. We found him nearly dead from starvation when he was about 5 months old.  After a trip to the vet, we took him home and got him on his way toward putting on some weight. The last trip to the vet for his shots, he was 105 pounds.

OK, he was nine years old, and that’s right up there for someone his size. But he’d shown no signs of being ill. Over the weekend, he played with his puppy friend Mari just like he always had. They’ve been great friends over the past few months.

But this morning when he didn’t come around for his breakfast, I found him stretched out, looking asleep, under his favorite tree. It was sunny in the winter and shaded in the summer, and gave him a good view of the driveway out through the trees.

Goodbye, Jester. Run free old friend. And if you and Squeak should meet up again, please take it easy on each other.

Arrivederci Jester. We miss you.

Posted by: meleigh53 | December 14, 2013

Have a Safe and Healthy Holiday


Formal BlackHeadshot_smallStaying safe and healthy during the winter holiday season can be tricky. This time of year it seems everyone is out shopping. Parking lots are filled to capacity and weather is bad. And it’s doubly important to think of personal safety with the muggings and violence which seems to go along with it.

For some practical safety tips for this shopping season, look up my article on Yahoo.

http://voices.yahoo.com/christmas-shopping-safety-12435060.html

Flu and cold season are here, too, so don’t forget to:

  • Wash your hands after pushing shopping carts.
  • Use hand sanitizer.
  • Eat a healthy diet. I know. It’s holiday time, with all the rich foods and sweets. Moderation is the key.
  • Avoid close contact.
  • Stay home if you’re sick. Don’t pass it on to your friends and co-workers.
  • Keep your hands away from your face. Flu and colds are spread when you touch something which is contaminated and then touch eyes, nose, or mouth.
  • Cover your mouth and nose. Instead of using your hand, cough or sneeze into your crooked elbow.

I know, these seem like common sense, but you’d be amazed what you see when you’re out and about in town. Shop safely, stay healthy, and have a fantastic holiday wherever you are.

Ciao!

 

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